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Feeling Insecure
Hi Sam: I have been a Christian for almost a year now. I first started going to the youth group that I belong with. Right now I can't get over the fact that I'm a new person. I can't help feeling insecure about myself. Especially when I'm being told I'm worthless. I know it's not true but I'm always feeling like no one loves me no matter what everyone says. I'm always thinking that someone is mad at me or that I offended them. I don't know what to do anymore...I'm so hurt I'm afraid to talk to anyone again. Everyone can see that something's wrong. I'm so lost...what can I do???
Lost
You are a new person, but the change on the inside takes time to be seen on the outside. Sometimes that's confusing, but it's normal. Keep doing what's right, attending your youth group, helping others. Before you know it, even you will see the change on the inside on the outside.
Your situation is challenging but think about it realistically. You said “I'm always feeling like no one loves me.” Do you always, often or sometimes feel like this? Does no one love you? Certainly, more people love you than you realize. Make a list of the people who do. You'll be surprised, and it will change the way you feel! (Remember, love is shown in many different ways. Get someone with a different perspective to help you make this list.)
Spend less time (if possible) with negative people. And, when others do have negative comments, counter those thoughts, in your mind, with what God thinks about you. Here's what God thinks.
You are loved.
You have been designed to overcome.
I have chosen you.
You are blessed with every spiritual blessing.
You are my workmanship.
I have a plan for you and it includes good things, hopefulness and a great future.
Think on these things! Changing your world starts by changing your mind.
PS: I think you're great!!!
