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No sex now... no regrets later!

Sam: I've got a friend (12 years old) who is sexually active. She says they are using condoms so she won't get pregnant or any diseases. I'm scared for her. Her parents don't know. What can I say to her?

Friend

Hi Friend: Your friend may be having sex for fun, for love, for worry of being rejected or because everyone’s doing it. Whatever her reasons, her decisions will change her life forever. Here’s what she’s needs to know.
  1. Having sex with someone knits your hearts together. If you break up, your heart is ripped apart. With each new sexual partner, your heart gets more and more damaged. Imagine giving a broken, torn and damaged heart to your new husband once you find his true love. Imagine receiving a used and shattered heart on your wedding day! Waiting until you’re married can help you find true love and closeness.
  2. Condoms do not provide safe sex. They can break, slip off and do not cover all the skin that makes contact. You can become pregnant or get an STD even when using a condom. Waiting until you’re married is 100% safe.
I’d challenge your friend this way. Set a higher standard. Don’t worry about if he’ll leave, worry about what he’ll leave you with. Is a moment of pleasure worth a lifetime of pain?

No sex now, no regrets later!
Sam.
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