Girls' Heart Point 

Sexual Purity

During the last Girls’ Heart Point conference many questions were asked about sex. I’m glad you’ve asked! It tells me you are interested in making good decisions about your sexuality. That’s cool….because sexuality is a very significant part of life! Let me answer this first question here.

Everyone has an opinion about lines of sexual purity. Your parents think one thing; your teachers may think another and your friends will probably have a different point of view all together. Opinions come from experience, the bathroom stall at school and even selfish motivations. If you stop to listen to someone’s opinion, she could probably convince you that her perspective is right. Lines of sexual purity are a matter of opinion. But who’s?

I like this opinion from the 1 Thessalonians 4:6 in the Bible. It’s sensible, logical and straight to the point. It’s not based on emotion or personal experience (which is different for everyone). It presents a clear perspective that makes sense! This verse, referring to sexual purity, simply says, ‘no one should defraud another in this matter.” There’s the line. Plain and simple. No one should defraud anyone about sexual matters.

I know what you’re thinking!! ’What does that mean?’ Let me explain.

Defrauding someone is creating a desire in him or her that cannot be rightfully met. Here’s an example. Let’s say you invite a friend to go on a vacation with your family. You talk about it for weeks. You go shopping for new bathing suits together, buy suntan lotion together and make plans for each day that you are away. Three days before you are to leave, you tell your friend that she isn’t allowed to come and apologize that you should have asked your parents before now.

Guess what……you just defrauded your friend. You created a desire in her that could not be rightfully met.

Let’s go back to the topic of lines of sexual purity.

From Genesis 2:24 we know that God designed sex to happen after marriage. Therefore, the only place, and this is God’s opinion, that sexual desires can be rightfully met is within marriage. So listen. If you and your b-friend start making out; kissing, touching, having oral sex etc. or if you start masturbating, you are likely creating a desire for sex in yourself or your b-friend that cannot be rightfully met within marriage.

It’s God who sets the guidelines for purity in every aspect of our lives.

So, this is His answer. Unless of course you’d rather debate another opinion.

Sam